I am married with two children.

I have benefited greatly by practicing Mahayana Buddhism for almost 13 months now. Have not gone to a temple, nor am I under a teacher/monk as my master.

My son has told me that he has homosexual tendencies as a young man. He has never dated anyone. He is 12. My wife is a born again christain. He is afraid to approach her with this, but has shared this with me. I love and accept him whether he is straight or homosexual.

We both, I have noticed him something in common.
We both have very strong sexual cravings. For me toward my wife. Never thought that way about other women. But think much too often about it toward my wife. It interferes with my Buddhist Path, Meditation, etc.
My son has the strong urges, sexual cravings toward other young men his same age. He is still learning the basics of Buddhism from me. He practices Mindfulness of Breathing, which he says helps him some.

What can we both do to help us cultivate much Samatha Meditation, and Insight (what I gues through the 4 foundations of Mindfulness) ? ANd any other Mahayana Buddhist methods possible ?
If I was not married I would make it my supreme goal to find out how, then to erradicate all my sexual cravings ?

There must be balance, an Excellent Middle Way approach !!

Any lengthly, sound advice, or books, CD’s, etc etc you can advise for us ?

It is very important to me to do my Best to be
Humbly Teachable !!!!!

Should I be under a Monk in my Buddhist walk/path, not simply for these matters, but for my new way of Life, the Middle Way, the Mahayana Buddhist path I have chosen ?

As an Atheist, the Mahayana Buddhist Path is my only choice.

Thanks for any, or as much help you can give us.

With Metta, B. Thomas

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